my boyfriend said he doesn't love me anymore

Im sorry youre going through this, but I always believe that everything works out for the best and happens for a good reason. It seems like he is afraid that if he says I love you, its like a marriage proposal. The hurt will linger for quite a time, but dont let it stop you from moving forward, even if it means youd do it alone. Josy, We dont always feel fantastic, and we havent always chosen the things that happen to us, buteverything belongs. I know I should just be patient but, maybe hes truly not interested in me anymore. On my birthday, he even bought me a present but did not wish me a Happy Birthday (he never wished me before anyway). These are all bad signs that your boyfriend doesnt love you anymore. If this sounds like your relationship then it might be time for some serious consideration on whether or not it is worth continuing. That doesnt mean he doesnt love you or wants to back out. When you feel better about yourself, youll appreciate yourself more, and maybe youll see things completely different. I just wanted to ask your opinion on this, and whether I did the right thing in asking him to review things in a month or so after having some time completely to himself? I just dont know what to do. He blames you whenever theres a problem or something went wrong, even about the plans you both made. The healthiest thing you can do is accept how he feels. Take your time to grieve and feel the aftermath of a failed relationship. Then usually a few months later ( and even a year later) they come out of the woodwork and contact you. Here are 9 signs that you should keep swiping. Please help me, I dont know how to fix this.. Im sorry about this, I can really relate as it happened to me in the past as well. He was crazy about me in the beginning, said and did nice things for me, paid attention to me, pursued me, shared his feelings for me and that has all died off now (I didnt expect it to last forever) however Im feeling like theres distance between us and were not communicating on the same level at the moment. Of course, you ignore them. His mental health is the worst Ive ever seen it. Of course Ive seen a lot of couples getting back together after no-contact, even much more than 30 days. but recently i feel he is distancing himself from me. Think about it. It will cause you unhappiness and pain. If you are sure this is the case, you can let it slide and talk to your partner once the air is clear. Hes not sure what love feels like. My boy friend has never told me that he loves me i was the one to tell him that and he always says ( i love you too) but i can see no prouve for that. Sounds to me that not only disrespected me but doesnt care about my feelings. Sometimes I just cant handle it and I get so mad and I tell him to leave but he never does. I was supposed to go to his friends wedding with him New Years Eve. and seriously im too confused. Even tough you told him to take some time to figure out what he honestly wanted, because you would be fine regardless of whatever he decided to do. I want him back so bad and would do anything to make us work but he doesnt think it will because Ive said this so many times and we never really took space and I think thats what we needed.. You can easily let it slide if it happens once. He may be looking at other girls and comparing them to you. I really need your help. The 4 years youve invested are not lost. while you still can. Many different things can go wrong when it comes to relationships, and sometimes things can seem unclear. Wow, thats upsetting. Try to focus on yourself now, instead of him. And here I am to help, comfort, and encourage you as you adjust to the reality that he doesnt love you anymore. If you convince yourself that you are unlovable, old etc, its exactly what will happen. What we shared for those seven months was real and special. Have you ever been in a situation when you felt and thought, he doesnt love me anymore? Love is something magical but can also turn out to be quite hurtful once its gone. What will really matter at that moment? The problem is that we humans feel. You may still be in shock you may feel unable to believe that he doesnt love you. Couples in love make plans all the time. Your intuition. I hope you do the right thing for you and remember If its meant to be It WILL be. He is enthusiastic about the relationship and wants you to know how he feels about you. You need to move through the pain before you can start to heal. Your job is to heal and grow through this. Here are some ways to interpret when you are faced with the dilemma of getting convinced that he doesnt love me anymore.. Not for long anyway, and no matter how much love we have. Dont give everything away just like that. I read the article you just sentand if thats the case, how do i turn my situation around and make him want to meet me again? It will cause you unhappiness and pain. I think that your boyfriend sadly wants to end this. Whats it going to be? I came home furious because I felt betrayed and heart broken. You are not alone. He his so tender with me, he hugs me and doesnt want to let go, kissses me all the time, when he tells me he loves me I can feel it, soIm so confused. When you are ready, you will start finding ways to rebuild your life. But he doesnt ever compliment me anymore or flirt with me or any of the stuff that I had originally really liked about him. Following this incident, he told me he needed 5 minutes and upon returning to the flat he said I think its best you go home, so listening to him and not wanting to prolong his mood I left. Can you accept him the way he is? Nice.. It doesnt have to mean what you think it means. If time goes by and he is not begging to come back, its not there anymore. His research is focused on making connections between people better, stronger, more meaningful, and longer lasting using technology. He wasnt sure if he was ready to commit so he dumped me a few times but remained friends then that turned back into a relationship. Youre only 28. We seemed to be back on tract. Mine first, his second. If your boyfriend has stopped using this phrase then something is wrong with the relationship. And he responded last by saying he was only responding because I warranted a response. I dont understand how we were fine and then werent. Aj, sounds like youre in high school or somewhere just about. I would give him some ultimatums or call it a day take control of the situation instead of wondering its not fair you have feelings too. In fact He is using you. Unless you expect him to, that is. . In most cases, no matter how in love two people are, it is easy for them to say hurtful words when they are fighting. My husbands dad passed away last November and it was only a matter of 6 months and life would have been better. Of course, he can do whatever he likes. My boyfriend always get mad at me, He says thats stupid and asks me why I want to remember that, like he thinks that I want to or something. He says he loves me I just dont understand how he could if he says hurtful things on purpose. This can be due to his lack of care towards your feelings because he no longer loves you. The way they look at you and hold you. When a man says hes not in love with you, you cant know what he is truly thinking or feeling. I hope this helps and good luck! It is never okay to just accept the bare minimum from someone; it's called settling, relationship expert and author Alexis Nicole White previously told Elite Daily. and start learning what to do when he no longer loves you. I think he is obviously afraid to commit. Ive said it to him probably like 3 or 4 times in the last 7 months. Do you want to still live with someone who wants you out? I am now married for 8 years to a guy who broke up with me (before we were married) and after being no-contact for 2 months. He got online on FB/ Whatsapp for a maximum of an hour but dont talk to me. Your boyfriends decision, no matter how painful it is, is not about you. We both dont know how to talk about emotions and he doesnt understand when he makes me feel bad. How do i turn my situation around and make him see that he can win at my relationship with him? If you push and pressure him youll push him away as well. Im 19 and my ex is 19 ,we where together for all of 2 years in ( Nov 5th ) when we first met , he wanted me first , I actually didnt want him off rip , but eventually i gave in and realized it was the best decision i ever made , from that point on we were soooo happy and in love , up until recently we started to stay together it was fine at first then it was constant arguing , but even then we had the mentality that through whatever we were going anywhere , up until he went to his home state we were arguing while he was gone , i ended up hanging up and not talking to him until he got back ( 2 days ) mind you i usually dont give in on arguements i keep it going until we resolve it but this time i just gave in ( he was telling me he didnt want to talk to me anyway ) so when he got back i was already prepared to talk to him about the changes i was about to take in my life ( like progressing ) but he beat me too it by saying we had to talk , that was the first thing he said when he got back , not hi or i miss you or anything . This can be an incredibly hard thing for anyone who has been with someone they love and cared about deeply over time, but its something that happens more often than people realize. Stop worrying about your ex, and focus on yourself instead. The drinking and gambling implies that he suffers from depression, and yes, his friend is his anchor right now. Fast forward to today. Now you have to decide if you can relax and enjoy your relationship just as it is, or not. We compromise and talk things through all the time. Hi! The question here is whats right for you in this situation. Well my problem is that I want more I want to be with him fully and he doesnt. Now hes trying to say the reason hes leaving me is because he doesnt know what he wants and doesnt know how he feels about me and hes unsure if he loves me. When I asked that in November he said he loved me he said yeah dont think too much into it things have been amazing since we got back and we have so many plans for the new year,including holidays, he asked me to join his crossfit gym, he wants to get more involved in my interests and hobbies. They may only be bursting words out of frustration, stress, or anger. help!! You have to understand that. It may be that he fell out of love with you and may already be inching his way out of your circle and, eventually, your life. I cant even voice an opinion in the house without being marked as a mean ogre. But I want him back in my life. Im 30, my boyfriend is 35, weve been together for just over 3 years now. Hudsons advice is to let go of that and get out of the relationship while you still can. Please guide me. He wants to feel independent and free and so do you, whether you know it or not. But for some reason, it seems inaccessible. I even watched the video about how to get him to want me/fall in love with me again, but it hasnt worked since he isnt around. He also seems to genuinely care about me. Oh he says the reason he cheated was I was always angry.n emotional over the phone telling him its over etc which was true. Hed tell me how much he cared about me and how lucky he thought he was. Responses from anyone is appreciated. Today he mentioned that he did love me once and believes there is still a part of him that does he just needs space to figure out what he wants. We do love each other but we have been fighting constantly. And see where things are going after that. I agree with him when he says you shouldnt think too much into it. You can try it (but really try) and if it doesnt work you can get all your money back no questions asked. He gets irritated even by the little things you do. Good luck! Ive stopped asking where goes and what hes doing. Hey, Im sorry that youre going through this. Keep your dignity, your self respect, so hell have a chance to see what he stands to lose for good. Yay. I refused to take the hints. 1) You don't have your own life. A surprise gift package from @stmartinspress! And what if he is not your boyfriend yet, just a guy youve been to some dates together. Okay so me and my partner have been together for 2 years now I am 19 he is 22, I love him more than anything but lately something is off in the past I have found texts saying he will go and stay at some girls for takeaway and a movie on the sofa I asked her about it she simply replied well as far as we all knew he was single then another girl he told me out of anger that he liked another girl, who then became his very good friend and they go out all the time chat all the time flirt all the time but shes like one of the lads so I shouldnt worry .right? He is the very introvert type and sensitive guy. You may never find all the answers, but you can work through the questions. It may seem hard to believe right now, but just sit with the thought that the breakup is about his own path through life. Everything happens for a reason. It really stressed him out and we would fight and argue and get over it the next day. All we have is right now. Im sorry if this came out really long, but I just really need a word of advice right now from someone who doesnt know me or my boyfriend personally. He has been gambling and drinking since his friend has lived here. I just want to BE with him, Ive told him as much. I he feels safe to talk he will tell you the truth, and thats a place to start, I think. You can not repeat the same things that hurt your relationship again. But does this really mean its over? He maintains contact with you when he doesn't have to. ( Find out if he plans to break up with you). Face it youve now replaced his ex wife face it your the next ex . Hes never been unfaithful, or a liar. My ex and I had been together for 2 years, and there is 10 years between us; me being 24 and him 34. At the end of the day, the most important thing is that your personal needs are being met. He keeps telling me he is sorry and that it was hard for him to end things and he was hurting. But I still thought we were happy, just thought he was going through an adjustment. At one point I tried to befriend her but with little luck. But you can let go. I was numb. It can make your heart flutter and turn you into a puddle of goo. After all, there are times when people say what they dont mean. Can i also mention this is long distance because of schooling. We started out great, really happy and loving. He seems to ignore my questions. Obviously he did not protestbecause it was exactly what he wanted. It's totally normal to have times when you feel more or less in love with your partner. Well this about me and my boyfriend ish Were basically just friends with benefits But were more like boyfriend and girlfriend, simply because we dont want either of us dating other people We have given each other permission to date others but we kinda both dont wanna share. No one knows what the future brings but this is the situation right now. Before we confirmed it he kept saying things like I wont be upset if you are and I think it would be good for us to have a kid but now it seems he is freaked out or something. I would guess that he has a somewhat low self esteem. If a man has told you outright that he doesn't feel romantically towards you, there's no point. Then hes asked me for money which I didnt send. Its tough because youre sweating too but it works. He makes me feel terrible for starting the fight. When we try, we push them away even further. Pressure will make him run away. I met him in near group. Without begging, pleading, and looking desperate. The next day he was avoiding my texts for hours and saying he was busy. I understand how this makes you feel. I often wish I had never left but then my family remind me of how much better off our son is. Try to work on your self esteem and keep confident through this, give him his time. You can't change his mind. This is the longest weve gone without any contact, and I just want to know is he even missing me? It depends on too many things. If he avoids being alone with you, this is a definite sign he doesnt love you anymore. Take this month to focus on yourself and staying as calm as you can. Were both 24 and were great for each other He helps cheer me up and makes me feel happy, which if you knew me isnt an easy task, I suffer from severe depression and other stuff but I wont get into all that. That hurts! Ive tried make it up to him but he seems like ignoring me. This is Ash. He made me few terrible each time and I would always think after that I had a right to be mad! All the while he was sat away from me and couldnt really look at me. Up until a week ago when, after he had been acting distant for a few weeks, I asked him what was wrong and he told me he thought he didnt feel the same as he did in the beginning. A man who loves his girlfriend will always put her first in his life. There is absolutely nothing to be scared about. what does this mean? Its as simple as he says. So he is staying in the relationship just so that we both work things out. Its really expensive..so..can you reassure me it will work? I told him I loved him at around the 6 month mark. I am confusedCant understand this situationAny ideas about what is really going on? Is your heart capable of enduring more pain by chasing and loving someone who doesnt love you? This heartbreak someone you love saying I love you but Im not in love with you can happen to anyone. Please help me. Now, how you feel about this is your own choice. Of course in the first week I cant accept it because I dont understand where did I go wrong. When a man says he's not in love with you, you can't know what he is truly thinking or feeling. and yesterday is our 1st month and i i greeted him and i say i love you he replied im going to take a bath XD and we talked again and i told him whats wrong he said theres nothing wrong .. he doesnt take our conversation serious anymore what does that mean? When we first met that fateful night, everything was telling me he was THE one, every positive emotion that I could possibly feel was surging through me (and I had dated guys previously, had a child by my ex, so I had a little bit of life experience under my belt even at 19). Try not hurt it by slamming in the wall over and over again. because he has already fallen out of love. One of these bad habits could be that he doesnt love you anymore or even worse that someone else may have come into the picture. And now, since yesterday. He says he has nothing to compare it to, so he doesnt know if this is love. He told me that in the future he wants to live in a different country, but never mentioned anything about me coming with him. Life is not about fighting, its about letting go and allowing things you want to come to you, through inner peace and calm. Notice your thoughts. Maybe not having a chance to talk to you or see you at all will make him realize what hes about to lose and open his eyes. Learn how your comment data is processed. Hello Lisa, that he is losing interest in your relationship or in you? Weve been planning a future, hes been looking at houses and talking about marriage and all that good stuff. He is afraid to break up with you, but thats what he wants. . If your partner is emotionally immature, take the lead, step back, and only talk to your partner once the air clears and he seems calmer. We talked and flirted a little but that was the extent because of my relationship. Being in love doesnt mean all the going out and whatever. He'll know how important it is to you, which is why he wants to check he's absolutely feeling that way before he says it aloud to you. i suspect that during our last break he had unprotected sex because the blanket that was on the bed had some stains that clearly looks like he was withdrawing, and of course he denies this. This article will try to look into the meaning of bidding goodbye to someone youve professed so much love before. It had seemed we were on the path for marriage. One way he will behave inappropriately when he feels like he is becoming trapped is by texting, DMing, or messaging other women. I told him that Im here and will be there as long as he wants me to. Im not so sure about him but he blows up if i even mention it? The question left now is what youre going to do about it: My,ex bfs excuse was that he stopped having feelings because he realised I was desperate to get married. He has been depressed lately after finding out his mum has cancer could that be the cause? He felt really bad for leaving, but I gave him my best wishes and told him to go to his dream school. But I know from seeing him in other situations such as work and driving etc he is very short tempered, work colleagues also say that he is hard work, snappy, argumentative etc and even confirmed he was like this before we met. Not a better man, just a different one. Lisa I appreciate that you have this blog for many people like my self who would like to hear someones opinion. Be gentle with yourself If he says he doesn't love you anymore, your self-esteem and confidence has taken a big hit. Weve had a few bumps in the road. Get this: he gets out of bed one morning and cracks his head on the rafter of the ceiling. I really do want him in my life. (12 Signs to Check), How to Make Him Regret Leaving You (& Losing You), https://howtogetaguytowantyou.com/make-him-regret-leaving-you/, https://howtogetaguytowantyou.com/how-to-handle-your-long-distance-relationship/, How to Flirt with a Guy over Text (+37 Flirty Text Examples! Nothing happened- he's just grown detached because of long distance. The same thing happened to me but our one year anniversary is next saturday. If you find yourself thinking, "My boyfriend doesn't love me anymore," it may be because it seems like he doesn't care about the relationship. yesterday we were to sleep at my parents house but he never pitched, came in the morning, no explanation or whatsoever. The next month was really stressful, he was moving house, we were saving to go on holiday in December and work for both of us piled up and I guess communication faltered. If youre in a current relationship, ignore texting or talking for a few days and youll really see how much they like you or not. Yes Ive tried talking to him about that and about everything. And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Thats one tip for whenhestops loving you: take a step back and let the air flow between you. The hurt will linger for quite a time, but dont let it stop you from moving forward, even if it means youd do it alone. He seems to need more time to sort out his feelings. I gave him space for a while but he didnt change his mind. He would snap whenever you tried to ask for compliments, often leading to an argument. They only wanted to make you experience that feeling of being powerless, sad, or hurt; thats why they say words that may not be entirely true. Recently 4 months bk he changed on me didnt call as much n never wanted to see me in those months. His best friend is a woman, which I respect but I dont think he handles the dynamic very well. But he has time for instagram but not to reply my text? When you let go, you find peace and freedom. This story sounds strange though, I need more info. Made me soup. I dont know what to do. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and a half and hes great to me , we always travel around , and soon moving in but everytime i ask him what he feels about me he says he likes me and likes to be with me but never says hes loves. I am so frustrated that dont even know how to react. Not my birthday or even when we had our anniversary. I really want there to be But its just really starting to get hard to put my feelings aside Please help me and thank you for taking the time to read and reply to this. This will give you more time to let go of the man and your feelings. But no kissing. Thats whats going in his mind (probably subconsciously). But after, he sends me long paragraphs saying he loves me and Im his and nobody elses. Love never dies, relationships do, unfortunately. Hes only felt a spark with me and one of he relationship for a while ago, but in every relationship he hits a wall and cant connect like the other person is. If you decide to support him like you told him, decide it from your heart, not because its the right thing to say and you expect something in return. If you notice that your boyfriend seems to not notice when you are upset anymore, or notices but ignores it its a red flag. And I couldnt bear to lose him because Ive been with him for 7 almost 8 months (longest rs in my life). We then went on a 2 week holiday where I said I wanted to wait longer before moving in and we had a really productive talk/argument where we both wanted to work things out after the last month where we felt our relationship had stagnated and action planned some manageable changes like ensuring date night weekly. In this post, we go through 17 heart-wrenching signs that may indicate your boyfriend or husband no longer loves you like he used to. We would study together, eat togtehr , sleep toegther. If you let him walk away while keeping your self respect and self worth, he may wake up in the near future and realize what he is missing. by Ryan Hart | Updated on November 19, 2021 | Post may contain affiliate links. I am putting the physical part of our relationship on the backburner (which is a big sacrifice to me), until the moment that we are together again. They resort to saying hurtful things, calling you names, or lashing out all the time because they permit themselves to do that, specifically when they are upset. He NEVER wants to do ANYTHING EVER. Physical intimacy is critical in many relationships, and the sudden lack of it can indicate hes no longer comfortable being intimate with someone he doesnt love anymore. This is going to be VERY long so I apologize in advance for the length, but I hope you still read it and could possibly give me some advice, bc I feel as if I have no one and nowhere else to turn at this point. In this case, it might be time to have an honest discussion with him and see if hell work on being more flexible next time.

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